That is the question. How do you decide what to buy your boyfriend for Christmas? Or perhaps what not to buy him? Well, who better to answer that then someone who is, in fact, a boyfriend.
I am writing this post for my girlfriend, who happens to own this blog, in the hope of helping some of you out there discover what to buy your boyfriend for Christmas or, at the very least, avoid the most egregious examples of bad gift giving. My sole qualification in this matter is that I am a boyfriend and have access to a keyboard, so take whan I say with a rather hearty dose of salt.
Without further ado, here is my list of what not to buy your bofriend and, more importantly, why.
Unless there is something truly remarkable about said clothing, we do not want work related clothes, thanks. Reminding him of the dreariness of work when he is trying to enjoy time off is truly misguided at best and cruel at worst!
My main issue with gifts like this coming from my girlfriend is that it is so remarkably boring. I sort of have a higher standard I hold her to because she is so wonderful (and will be reading this later) (she did read this). If you do plan to go down the route of clothes as a gift I would suggest an item of more interest, such as a jacket, trousers or shoes.
Having said all that, if the gift is a novelty item as a joke you can probably get away with it.
Shower gel/Shampoo etc
If your boyfriend is, in fact, a relative or family friend this will make a perfect gift. I mean, that is what one traditionally buys for semi-strangers, isn’t it? Apologies to all those I buy shampoo and shower gel for…
It strikes me as a gift bought for nephews by their uncles and aunts, at least in my experience this is the case. Furthermore, if your boyfriend is bald this is a particularly poor present.
This has a similar problem to the shower gel and shampoo. Scratch that, I just realised that cologne is actually much more expensive than I first thought, it is deodorant that I was intimating at.
Deodorant is a very risky gift to get for multiple reasons. Firstly, are you insinutating that the person smells? and secondly, if yes: do you really want him to smell like Lynx/Ax body spray? Exactly. Bettter to buy some of that cologne instead.
Something you sercretly want
This kind of goes for anyone, but getting a gift that you know is really a proxy so that the giver can use it later does really suck. I should know, I give gifts like that all the time so please do as I say, not as a I do. This rule can be deleted if what you buy your boyfriend is genuinely something you both want.
This is a rule that is harder that it seems. When shopping for gifts for others I often find that I discover endless amounts of new items I want for myself, but sadly nothing for anyone else. I guess the solution to this would be to be less self centred but that may be a journey that takes a little longer than the time between now and Christmas. Oh well, at least you can use the gifts you give this year!
The worst gift of all
The final item on this small selection of what to not buy for your boyfriend is… drumroll… anything selected from a list off the internet. Don’t get me wrong, these lists are useful for igniting inspiration and finding occasional things that are unusual, but really the best gifts are those with some thought behind them.
Just think about what he likes and try to buy something related to that. It doesn’t matter at all if you get it completely wrong, it is the thought that counts. If he really does get mad that you got the wrong esoteric item related to his hobby that noone outside of it could possibly get right then, well, he might just not be the one! You have been warned.
Some of the most memorable presents I have ever received have been when Aleksandra has tried to find out about something I was into at the time and got something thoughtfully related, to me it showed she truly cared.
Not a video game
I almost forgot, don’t forget to not buy your boyfriend no video games. I was trying to be clever here but the number of negatives has actually just confused me. for clarity: I, and many other men, often enjoy video games.
(Avoid Battlefront 2 though, unless you plan to bankrupt him.)
All of these are, of course, mostly tongue in cheek and honestly all caveated by the fact that each guy is different (I’ve heard). What I like could be the opposite to what your own boyfriend incorrectly likes. Basically, don’t use lists found on the internet to buy gifts. You should know him just a little after all, buy something he might actually like and, if all else fails, just chip in on a gift from someone else!